My dad once told me life would get complicated when I grew up. I’m guessing this isn’t what he meant. My mom, on the other hand, agreed with him, and I’m guessing this kind of thing is exactly what she meant.
Breezeblocks (Acoustic) - Alt-J
You don’t understand how important this moment was to me. Kieren is eighteen years old, he suffers from severe anxiety and depression, he’s being accused of something he didn’t do, and, as a result, he lashes out. This reaction is completely understandable. And yet, because he is a PDS sufferer, they take the innate humanness of the outburst and twist it to make him seem inhuman. This is what happens when you are part of an oppressed group. They push you, and push you, and you keep your head down, and nothing changes - and when eventually you snap, act out in anger and frustration because you can’t take it any more, they take that reaction and turn it around to justify their oppression. This is the moment when Kieren realises he cannot win. Whatever he does, he will always be a monster.
i’ve wanted a new icon forever and i’m so lazy lately so i’m just using one mashamorevna made cause her coloring is off the charts and all her icons are gorgeous.
The real meaning of “I’m not like the other girls” is, I think, “I’m not the media’s image of what girls should be.” Well, very, very few of us are. Pop culture wants to tell us that we’re all shallow, backstabbing, appearance-obsessed shopaholics without a thought in our heads beyond cute boys and cuter handbags. It’s a lie – a flat-out lie – and we need to recognize it and say so instead of accepting that judgment as true for other girls, but not for you.
I saw someone on winteriscoming say that we have moved from Martin’s story to D&D’s story and that’s it’s not necessarily a bad thing, just different. And I feel like ranting.
The thing is, I do know what they mean. If the show changes a character’s motivations it’s not necessarily bad. It just means that we have two different stories and one isn’t automatically superior. BUT, the story in the books is simply more inclusive. In the books, the Martells are people of colour. We have amazing layered female characters who break traditional fantasy tropes, instead of fulfilling these sexist tropes like in the show. Catelyn is the best example here, I think. In the books, Loras Tyrell is more than every gay stereotype put together. Oberyn is more than his sexuality. The weird offensive ableist beetle story doesn’t exist in the books. In the books, Cersei isn’t raped by the only person she trusts. Brienne calls Jaime a coward, but never “a bloody woman”. Arya never calls most girls idiots. In the books feminine female characters are valued just as much as the female characters who fill traditionally masculine roles.
While flawed and by no means perfect, the books are for everyone. The show is written through the male gaze and mostly for white cishet men. I personally resent D&D taking the books that are empowering to me as a female fantasy fan and turning them into the same tired stereotypical sexist fantasy. And the thing about changing characters’ motivations is that too often on GoT they are changed to the detriment of female characters in a way that takes away their agency. See Sansa plotting her escape with Dontos versus Sansa being dragged away by Dontos like a sack of potatoes. When a change like this is made then I can say it has made the story worse.
TL;DR - D&D’s story isn’t inferior because it differs from the books. D&D’s story is inferior because it’s sexist, racist and gross.